Many people equate being a lady with a sort of powdery feminism, an image to aspire to. And while that may be true to many, it certainly is not true to me. By far I myself am not ‘powdery’, lithe or graceful. Nor do I aspire to replicate iconic women such as Jackie Onassis for their ability to look good/be good/compose themselves with more dignity than I will ever have.
So why am I advocating for lady-like behaviour? The benefits are tenfold what you put out. The respect you gain from others because of the respect you give yourself is monumental. The Golden Rule of “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you” is something to live by, but it works the opposite way too. Treat yourself as you want others to treat you. If you’re beating yourself up over something you did wrong, it will show. If you’re happy and embracing your achievements everyone else will join because you’re over the moon, and leaking positivity. Who wants to be around someone who is anything but? When you are kind and polite to yourself, people are kind and polite to you. And when people are kind and polite to you, you are kind and polite to others.
Why bother? Because it betters the social environment you’re involved in. It fosters respect for others and a sense of self worth. It allows you to be the best that you can be constantly in every aspect of your life. So even if you’re like me and have an inability to be graceful and would pass “Household Electric Repairs 101” with a substantially higher grade than “Ballroom Dance for Dummies”, you will benefit from your experience in refinement.